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Manners are nothing but a set protocols set by this society for us to follow to be called as a civilized human being. Manners are every where, whether you talk, eat, dress or behave. If we notice manners is not much of a problem at home because we are naturally connected to our family and manners don’t play much of a role in the way we interact. Manners should not be confused with discipline, often most parents do. Manners are the set of rules and discipline is how we follow these manners. Most school teaches us only education, the manners we learn is from people with whom we interact on a daily basis.

The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any.

Here are list of few manners which the community requires you to follow :

Phone Manners:

This is probably the most ignored form of manners. I have heard people screaming on phone. They scream so hard sometimes I wonder why they require the phone anyway! Here is the list of phone manners that most of us seem to ignore.

1. The first and the most important thing is to greet the person, instead of asking where he/she is now.
2. When you call someone, make sure to tell the reason for the call.
3. If you picked someone else call, mention your relation with the concerned person and ask if you can convey the message to concerned person.
4. Do not shout on the phone, you are just giving an uncivilized impression about yourself.
5. Do not be rude on phone, if you are not in the mood to talk either don’t pick the call or ask someone else to attend the call on your behalf.
6. Don’t keep the person on hold for too long. Everyone hates to be on hold.
7. If you have told someone on phone that you will call up later, don’t forget to call them back.
8. While talking on phone if you want to converse with someone near by make sure you cover the mouth piece of the phone. You surely don’t want them to be hearing what you are talking here.
9. At the end of the call thank the person for there time and promise to call later.
10. Keep the phone receiver back properly else you will not be getting calls until someone spots it.

Table Manners:

Most of us totally ignore this until we have a guest at home, when all of these manners seem to become our first priority. Table manners are extremely important in your professional life, you don’t want to be eating like a prehistoric ape.

1. Wash your hands before sitting to eat, even if you are going to use spoon to eat.
2. Don’t be the first to dig into your plate.
3. Start eating only after the complete food is served, many people have the bad habit of eating as soon as they seem some food on there plate.
4. Never make sound while chewing the food or sipping your soup, it can be very irritating.
5. Don’t stare on others plate to watch what they are eating or how much they finished.
6. Don’t spill the food all around your plate.
7. Don’t play with your food.
8. Make sure you are familiar using your fork and knife.
9. Take the quantity that will satisfy your hunger don’t fill your plate with food only to waste it at end.
10. Don’t be first or the last person to finish the food at the table.

Manners at your Workplace:

At work place you are supposed to be in your best manners. This is where all the manners that you learned count. When we are in a profession our company expects us to be in our best manners because they mean business. Surely another company won’t like to be doing business with a group of baboons. Here are few of them that should help you maintain your standards at the workplace.

1. Don’t address people by name use a title like Mr., Mrs., Ms, Sir etc. or refer them by there designation.
2. Give your total attention when you are being briefed about the work, you don’t want to be asking your colleague later. Trust me it leaves a very bad impression about you.
3. Have a well organized desk. A cluttered desk gives an ugly impression about your working methods.
4. Schedule your work properly else you may get stressed at work.
5. Don’t crowd at a cabin just because someone wants to show you something really cool. You can see that cool thing at your leisure time.
6. Make sure you maintain your Phone and table manners, someone is always watching you.
7. Every company has smoking zones. Don’t be rude to non-smokers.
8. Don’t carry food to your desk, finish it in canteen itself.
9. Be on time!! Nothing pisses off your boss more than a late coming employee.
10. Talk less, work more. Remember you get paid to work not to talk.

Talking Manners:

This type of manners comes into picture when we carry out our daily conversations be it with friends, family or even a complete stranger. Talking on phone is much easier than carrying out a direct conversation specially while talking to a stranger. The way converse on phone and directly are completely different scenario, while talking on phone our body language doesn’t come into picture but in a direct conversation it does. So we will concentrate on more on the manners related to body language. Talking manners should be a combination of what we saw with phone manners and what are we going to see now.

1. Give attention to the person with whom you are talking. You shouldn’t be watching the sky while talking.
2. While talking to females don’t be staring at there private parts.
3. Don’t be spitting saliva while talking, many people have this very annoying habit.
4. Don’t be abusive while talking.
5. Choose your words carefully, your words are like a bullet once shot it can’t be pulled back and can hurt people.
6. Include some humor in your conversation even if you are talking something serious. That doesn’t mean you are joking around when you have gone to pay last respect for someone.
7. Make sure your mouth does not smell bad. Chewing gum can help you suppress the bad smell.
8. Talk intelligently, many people look very impressive until they open there mouth.
9. Don’t brag too much about yourself, people are too selfish to be bothered much about you.
10. Don’t lie too often, people will stop trusting you.

I hope you found these tips useful. Feel free to share your comments here.

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